August 2016

21
Aug

Stuck in a rut? Five ways to get out of your head and into a new groove.

Do you feel like you’re stuck in a rut? You can’t move forward, you can’t get that break, and sometimes, you just can’t let go of the past?

You’re not alone. We’ve all been there. And many of us have moved on by taking some simple steps to get un-stuck. Get out of your head and find yourself a new groove.

“If I consider my life honestly, I see that it is governed by a certain very small number of patterns of events which I take part in over and over again…when I see how very few of them there are, I begin to understand what huge effect these few patterns have on my life, on my capacity to live. If these few patterns are good for me, I can live well. If they are bad for me, I can’t.” — Christopher Alexander, The Timeless Way of Building

When you feel stuck it’s usually because of one of three things—and all of them are in your head. Either you are focusing on all that is wrong with your situation which tends to attract more of what is wrong. Or, you don’t have a clear vision for what you desire, so it is hard to know if you are stepping into your dream. Finally, it could be that you’re holding on to something from the past resulting in doubts and fears that are holding back your progress. This last one is the biggest reason you’re not moving toward achieving what you desire — subconscious programs that keep you in a rut. But you can escape this groove!

Step 1: Change Your Mind

You are in charge of the thoughts that you think! Take the reins and guide your brain.

When you think about your current situation, do so with gratitude. See how far you’ve come. Appreciate where you are now. Get excited about the journey. Open yourself to all adventure that comes your way.

“To refuse what life offers is to chance not recognizing happiness if it comes your way.” — Maurice Goudeket, Close to Colette: An Intimate Portrait of a Woman of Genius

If you’re not happy, change your thoughts. Think about something else, something that feels happy! Think about something positive to stop negative thoughts from spreading.

“Anxiety and Ennui are the Scylla and Charybdis on which the bark of human happiness is most often wrecked.” —William Edward Hartpole Lecky, The Map of Life

Step 2: Create A Vision

Consider what you would like to achieve and how you desire to feel. This is your life, aim high. People tend to overestimate what they can accomplish in a year while they tend to underestimate what they can do in three years. Look ahead and double the distance! With clear direction, you can create a map or a plan for getting there!

“Nothing is so exhausting as indecision, and nothing is so futile.” — Bertrand Russell

Then, set intentions every day. It is important to determine actions you are able to carry out during the week. Create intentions, and list the follow through steps you’ll take for each one. This is your map for the day. Mapping gives you a clear sense of direction.

Expand your list to include intentions about anything you desire to see advanced or changed. You might have several areas in your life that require tune ups. The overwhelm can leave anyone feeling stuck. Select one or two things to begin. Consider categorizing intentions: friendships, adventures, environment, health, intellect, skills, spirituality, career, family, community, creativity.

Look at areas for personal growth, contribution, and connection. Map out your intentions. Without direction, you’ll just fall into a rut.

Step 3: Believe In You

You have to believe in you — believe you can and will achieve your goals. Once you believe, you’ll attract the people, places, and potentials to assist you.

“Public opinion is always more tyrannical towards those who obviously fear it than towards those who feel indifferent to it.” — Bertrand Russell, Conquest of Happiness

When you believe in you, you will surround yourself with people who support you, those who will assist you in achieving your goals.

“To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life.” — Robert Louis Stevenson, Familiar Studies of Men and Books (1882).

Step 4: Enlist Your Subconscious

Eliminate subconscious thoughts and beliefs that aren’t serving you. Replace them with empowering thoughts and beliefs.

Your subconscious does what it thinks you desire it to do — it simply follows your thoughts and beliefs. So make sure you have thoughts and beliefs that allow you to expand, experience, and excel in the life you desire.

Focus on what you desire, require, and deserve. Don’t dwell on all that is wrong, what you don’t want, what you don’t like. See every problem as an opportunity to design a solution.

“Such as are your habitual thoughts; such also will be the character of your mind; for the soul is dyed by the thoughts.”– Marcus Aurelius

Employ encouraging self-talk. Be positive. Stop beating up yourself for things that didn’t work — instead, ask yourself “what have I learned from this that will move me forward?” Turn a mistake into a valuable lesson.

Step 5: Own Your Power

You are a powerful person. Step into it. If you’re not living the life you desire, you’re not directing and working with your power—your subconscious mind. Give it the correct instructions so that it assists you in creating the life of your dreams. Take charge of your self, all of your self!

“If you make it a habit not to blame others, you will feel the growth of the ability to love in your soul, and you will see the growth of goodness in your life.” —Leo Tolstoy, A Calendar of Wisdom

Let go of the past and create the life you feel you desire. Move forward, get out of that rut, achieve more, and have more. Enjoy life. Be happy. Share laughter. And focus on living the life of your dreams.

16
Aug

3 Wise Women Cross the Desert in Search of GOD

It all started with an idea to reach out to like-minded people who are out to change the world—the influencers. When I realized that one of our favorite influencers would be holding an event only a seven-hour drive away, I alerted the team! And, as the multiverse would have it, our producer/partner Dana Jones and her husband Gene of EICM would be spearheading a Waste Conversion Conference in San Diego during this time (and there was room at the inn!).

In a twist to the classic tale, we didn’t ride camels—though I was sitting in a camel-colored seat within a camel-colored car…. We did bring gifts—books, a CD, and heart-to-heart hugs. And we wore essential oils. So our story continues to unfold.

The film trilogy we are planning includes reflections from GOD—an essential “character” in the scheme of things. And we aim to surprise you, enlighten you, and amuse you with this omni-presence. We reached out to expand the eventuality for the GOD character (knowing that GOD can appear in many ways). And, this time, it isn’t Morgan Freeman!

Our search landed us in La Jolla, California where we met with Vishen Lakhiani, CEO of mindvalley and orchestrator of A-Fest. Over breakfast and up until lunch, we connected in a corner booth and talked about the realm of possibilities.

With this collaboration, we have made another quantum step forward in this movie-ment. On our way, we met so many wonderful people. Another soul sister, Ange McNally, Chief Listening & Empowerment Officer (CLEO) of Mind & Matter, who was, like us, dressed in black & white, connected with us in the coffee line (flash back to Traci and Dana).

Ange is from upper Arlington, OH where Sherry Anshara cleared a building for her dear friend and client, Catherine Vonderahe, who opened the successful South of Lane Cafe (the first restaurant, ever, in upper Arlington—and it rocks with intentional success). There, intentions were set with words written all over the walls. Small world. Gigantic connections.

Our journey included making the acquaintance of Pierre Chammas, owner and CEO of MegaFuel in El Cajon, CA, who saved the day after Kearny Pearson Ford declined (can you say, #fail) filling air in the tires of our ride—the camel-colored Ford Explorer. Just down the road from this Ford dealership was the oasis known as MegaFuel where Pierre assisted us with kindness (and he would not take a tip for his efforts—insisted we donate it to those in need). Blessings indeed.

So many wonder-filled moments completed this leg of a journey. We continue to experience the joy of stepping in the direction of our dream. And we can’t wait to entertain you with enlightenment.

As Sherry Anshara reports, “Today I am grateful the fabulous weekend whirlwind to San Diego and LaJolla to meet Vishen Lakhiani with Tamara Parisio and Dana Jones. What a fabulous two and half hours we spent together, connecting in heartness, talking about consciousness, and sharing about the tools of the QuantumPathic Energy Method. What a gift Vishen is to this world. In gratitude, gratefulness and thankfulness for this entire weekend—connecting, laughing, and, some shopping too!”

We couldn’t have said it better. —Heartness, Tamara